As far as husbands go I have a pretty darn good one. He is attentive. Considerate. Tries to spoil me. Hard working. Etc…. All wonderful and great things to be sure.
One little bitty flaw.
Well, it’s not a flaw, it’s just him.
He thinks he never gets mad.
That’s right. Never. And I mean:
No matter what the subject we are discussing or arguing or dancing around he says he is not mad. If he “snaps” or responds “loudly” and later I ask him if he is still mad his response is:
“I wasn’t mad honey.”
Every. Single. Time.
You may think this is endearing. And wonderful. And admittedly it sometimes is. Other times it’s just a lie. That’s right DB I’m calling you out! You DO get mad. And I will take it one step further and say it is sometimes justifiable. Not always, but yes, sometimes I can be annoying.
Disclaimer: I know some of you may find that hard to believe. My children and siblings are not objective so their opinions don’t count.
I believe in the right of us all to get mad/angry/pissed off. What ever term you prefer to use. And I also believe it would take super human powers to not get angry at some point in your life. Grant it the anger can have varying degrees of severity. Some angers don’t even really count or matter. Some do. And that is the problem. If you’re angry and deny it you aren’t doing anyone any favors. I can handle you being mad. Even if it is me you are angry at or about.
Loving someone is not parts and parcels and pleasantries only. It’s trusting that love enough to get angry. Say so. And deal with it.
YES YOU DO GET MAD.
And I love you.