Plant Love

One of the reasons I write on an almost daily basis is to focus on my every day life.  I don’t want to get to the end of this life, a gift, and look back only to realize I missed out on it by wishing and  hoping for something ‘better’ or ‘easier’ or ‘greater’ down the road.   Today matters.  And today with our hearts heavy and aching I am having a difficult time fulfilling my self driven goal to find the good every single day.    How do we, at this time, find the joy without feeling guilt  for experiencing joy?

I decided to try something.

It came to me when I was too lazy to go out for lunch.  I didn’t even want to walk to my car to eat what I had packed.  I had no desire to go out and buy a bagel at Tim Horton’s.   I just wanted to play on the computer.   I wasn’t even sure what to do.   I think I wanted to be mindless.   Without thought.  Without worry.

I pulled up Facebook.   There’s a mindless activity.   I can just browse through pictures and the non-goings-ons of others on Facebook.   But when I pulled up the blue and white page it occurred to me that there were an awful lot of people on there I loved.  Their faces just glimpsing out at me in little winking portraits….some not even portraits of the person.   But a picture that I knew related to someone I care for.

I looked at the time on the bottom of the page and decided to spend ten minutes there.   Ten minutes saying “I love you.”

That was it.   No smiley emoticons.   No little hearts.  No exclamations.

Just:  I Love You.

I wrote “I Love You” on as many people’s pages  as I could in ten minutes.

It felt incredible to notice that before I was even done with my ten minutes I was getting “likes” and love returned.

I didn’t want to do anything other than share my love.   Let someone know I was thinking of them.

Let love take over.

And it did.

When I logged off of that blue and white page I realized something.

I did, indeed, feel better.

In our every day we so quickly make a complaint.  Point a finger.   Shake our heads.   Acknowledge how crazy the world is.   And by doing so we are doing exactly what we say we don’t want in our lives:  we are encouraging the growth of negative.  Bad.  Nasty.   Dare I even say it:  evil.

I’m not a scientist.  I can’t quantify anything.  Not in scientific terms.  I had to look up “empirical” to make sure I spelled it right.   Though I don’t have the appropriate letters behind my name I do think I have some empirical proof (is that redundant?) that says when we plant love it grows.  In ten minutes I told many people that I love them.  That they are thought of.   And for the rest of the afternoon I have been getting messages back that I am loved.   And from that ten minutes I start to regain my focus.  My heart still hurts.  But I love.   And love matters.   We can’t let it just hang there waiting to be reclaimed.   We need to plant it continuously.  We need to nurture it.  Cultivate it.   We can’t ignore it.  The more we put in to it and the more we put it out there the more it will spread.

I know this isn’t a new concept in the world.   But it’s often over looked or ignored for it’s simplicity.

If I had sat at my desk for my lunch and done nothing but browse through pictures or people pinning things on boards that I don’t understand  I would have felt no better than when I had begun my lunch.   I would have done nothing productive.  I would have encouraged no growth in the world.

I would have missed out on the joyful responses I received back from  my love posts.

I would have smiled less and thought more darkly.

And I would have missed out on this:

A short time after my lunch was over I received a call from my daughter.

She said, very excitedly:  where you at?

I said, wondering what was wrong with her:  I’m at work.   What?

She said:  where you at?     (Why is she talking like that?)

I said:  what?

She said:  WERE YOU HACKED?!  WERE YOU HACKED?!

I said:  what????

She said:  on Facebook did you just tell like 8000 (she said eight thousand) people you love them.

I said:  (laughing) maybe not 8000 

She said:  Well, like a lot?  I thought you were hacked.

I said:  No, I just wanted to say it.

She said:  Oh, okay, as long as you weren’t hacked.  

Later I checked my Facebook and she had written:   LOL and i love you…..what do you need?

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Just that.    That is what I needed.   It made me laugh and felt like a gift.

🙂

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36 thoughts on “Plant Love

  1. bikebrown says:

    Such a simple thing to do that I’m sure brought a little cheer to lots of people.

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  2. lexiesnana says:

    I am not the I Love You Hacker but just know you are special to so many of us including this old grandma.

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  3. optimisticgladness says:

    I felt sad today. I went to work and I was “jumpy.” The custodian came into the classroom where I was and I jumped out of my seat. This post made my day. Reblogging. Thank you!

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    • You’re welcome. I understand the jumpiness. I have been lethargic. I knew I couldn’t/can’t wait for the world to change for me. I have to be able to work on changing and helping the world along. Even little bitty doses-it all helps. 🙂

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  4. optimisticgladness says:

    Reblogged this on Deep and Wonderful Thoughts and commented:
    I had a tough day today. Still so sad and weepy. This post really encourages me.

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  5. Nessie says:

    I don’t think people (or you) understand how lucky I am to have you as my mother! You have to be the most caring and warmhearted person I have ever met in my entire 22 years of life. Although sometimes you make me angry because you’re “the mom”. =)

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  6. I love this! I may do this tomorrow on FB! 🙂

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  7. viveka says:

    I think it’s amazing that something like that can just grow and grow online and I’m really happy for you that you got such a fantastic response. Well done.

    Now I’m going to be boring again –I love you on FB – not really me.
    In all honesty I think we misuse the words _ I Love You. For me those words mean something very special. Not something I say to every person I know or had contact with.
    Love is a massive word really and in my personal opinion we have belittled the word a bit.
    This is just how I feel about it. Hope I haven’t made you upset *smile – because I like you so much. *smile

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    • Viveka you can’t upset me with having your thoughts and opinions. I fully understand.

      When I went on Facebook I said “I love you” to my children, husband, mom, cousins, aunts, and close friends” and even at that (I have a large family) I did not get to nearly all of them in 10 minutes.

      Like you, I did not use “love” freely. Until recently.

      I think “love” is multi layered. When I say I love my husband I don’t for one second mean the same “love” when I say I love you to my brother. But it is strong and wonderful. And different for each.

      I also think there are those who have belittled the word. But I think those who belittle are the folks who “hurt” in the name of love. That, I don’t see as love. You cannot say “I love you” to your spouse, or child, or parent, or others and then intentionally hurt them.

      I have also been told by people I have never met that they love me. And I accept that for them loving me as a person. Someone else sharing this large and crazy world with them.

      You have not upset me at all. Because I respect your opinion and your feelings. And I like you so much as well!!!!

      🙂

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  8. msampson999 says:

    You forgot to tell Tyler you loved him but thats okay, because telling me was the only thing that matter 😛 Such a great post!

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  9. That is a great act of kindness. Definitely not a lot of people doing that…myself included! I must do this! Thanks for a great reminder to us all!

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  10. Red says:

    I think it is the real reason why we still do the chain letter blog awards. They let us know someone else is reading and cares.

    And yes, your results are empirical. ❤

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    • Whew! Thank you. 🙂 I wouldn’t want to look totally foolish by using that incorrectly. 😉 Thank you much Red, and I will be the first to admit…I like validation. In blog awards or I love you’s.

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  11. Mustang.Koji says:

    The thought of getting hacked also crossed my mind IMMEDIATELY when I read that part of your blog… GREAT MINDS THINK ALIKE!

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  12. robin claire says:

    Great post!
    robin claire

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  13. Love really is a verb. It’s an action. You took one small step during your lunch break and it spread like a wildfire. I think it’s fascinating to learn about the overwhelming response you received. Clearly, lends evidence to your claim that we need to let love grow!

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