I wrote this almost four years ago. And I’m a little tickled that I still do this.
Every day I find myself experiencing something funny, or touching, or astounding. Someone says something to make me laugh. Or make me feel good about myself. Or make me think carefully about what I am doing or saying. Kind of like what a guardian angel would do. Maybe that guardian angel is inspiring others to be kindly towards me. And helping me to be more aware of others. Flitting back and forth between me and the others in my life-encouraging us to interact with grace and humor.
And because of this, every day I try to tell someone “you’re my favorite today!”. And it makes them smile.
I’ve told this to my friends, my co-workers, a couple of different nurses, a couple of different doctors. People who are helping me on the phone with business, or personal matters. People who have stepped in to my life for a brief stay and exited just as quickly for whatever it is they are doing for me, with me, because of me.
I told a hair sylist because she told me I had the spikey personality to go with my hair. Funny, almost four years ago to the day I told a different hair stylist because in making small talk she asked if I had children and I said yes, then I told her I had four grandchildren. Her hands dropped, and she exclaimed there was no way I was old enough to have grandchildren. Sure, sure, the cynic can say she was only being kind. But kindness is well rewarded in my book. And I flat out told her she was my favorite today and there was no faking her laugh and genuine reaction to being told that.
I told a doctor because he wanted to know how I stayed so thin, and that I was perfect!
I told a lady on the phone who gave me information to help an elderly client. I’ve done this many a times.
I told a co-worker who helped me when they had their own work to do.
I told a clerk in a store who took extra time to help me and didn’t make me feel like a moron.
I tell it to people who read my words and take the time to comment back, sharing a thought, an experience, a funny, or even an appreciation. So often these shared words inspire me, calm me, comfort me, or make me laugh.
I’ve told it to a lot of people. And the best part? Their reaction. More often than not they burst in to a smile and stop their constant motion and say “me?” or “really?” or “why?”. I always tell them why. I mean, how many of us go through a day without being anybody’s favorite? Or if we really want to be reflective, how many of us go through a day not deserving to be some one’s favorite.
It’s not the same as me and my siblings who think we are all our parent’s favorites. We all know who that really is. Shhhhh. I just like to recognize the things people do in this world that maybe go unnoticed, or unacknowledged because of the busy-ness of our days. The crazy and crisis of our world. The little things that we do for each other. They do matter. My best moments in life are never when I am alone. These moments always include someone else.
And, I need to work harder at being somebody’s favorite, every day.
This doesn’t change. I never master being perfectly kind and thoughtful. It’s something I have to be aware of. And, sometimes, I have step out of my own head and worries and expectations to be kind, thoughtful and generous to others.
Just something I think about.