And shame grows.
Happens to all of us at sometime in our life.
I guess so.
And sometimes it doesn’t it shout down. Your bravery shouts back and shines through.
But I know that is hard to remember in these moments.
((Hugs)) and ❤ to you dear.
Thanks NAPR. Just sometimes I wish I had the courage to shout out a few things. I know I do, sometimes. And other times…not. So thank you.
Yes, well, no regrets, right?
True. Can’t have regrets. Have to find ways to say what I need to say. Or do.
I’ve opened my mouth plenty of times and it doesn’t always end well!
Well….then there’s that.
Probably more times your bravery shouted down your cowardice… no need for shame!
Thank you RMW. I think sometimes it’s nice to be reminded of that. 🙂
But could this be a case of discretion being the better part of valor? Maybe time will tell.
Good question Jim. I think it could be. Considering I don’t know how to say what it is I want to say. Maybe that’s part of the hesitation.
Same here. Maybe those moments are designed to humble us a bit.
Another good consideration. Sometimes I think ‘not’ saying something I feel is a truth of mine or a disagreement to something being said makes me dishonest. But, maybe it’s cause for me to rethink, listen more.
Circumstances mitigate, my friend. I will take you on my side every time, every situation, no questions asked.
There is something to be said for trust and support Mark. And you just said it. Thank you.
It is not easy to stand up for one’s convictions. I had a very powerful poster on my college dorm wall, “Behold the turtle. He only makes progress by sticking his neck out.” Hope I have not mentioned this before, I like to quote it when I feel a little nervous telling someone that they are out of line or bothering me with their words…
Colleen, you are very brave, mainly when it is needed. Don’t be ashamed of the few times in life, you may be silent. Sometimes, silence is enough! Hugs xo
I don’t recall you mentioning it before Robin. I lived a very long time being silent. Then I entered a phase where I didn’t shut up. So now, I think I get nervous when I am silent again, like I fear I will lose my voice again/will to speak again. Thank you for the wisdom. It does help. 🙂
I am sure we all feel overwhelmed with the way things go, sometimes. I don’t always speak up so freely, as I do with close family and friends. Even on my blog, I tend to edit out things from time to time, Colleen. Don’t want to offend or say too much… Glad something I said may help you. Hugs, Robin
I think I actually feel comfort in knowing it isn’t just me. I normally don’t like to say that. But getting feedback that perhaps it is discretion based, or for other reasons that I don’t speak. I know sometimes it is truly that I do not have the courage to speak. But taking some of this feedback and considering what I am thinking about, it very well could be discretion. And that I feel I need to learn more. Learning that my opinion may not actually matter or make a difference is a lesson. It may matter to me, but that doesn’t mean I have to share it. Thank you Robin.
Yep! Sometimes. But that’s what bootstraps are for. 🙂
Ah!!!! Perhaps I need to get a good grip! 😉
Cowardice or discretion? Often a close call.
I like that I am given that option. Thank you.
I know the feeling. An uncomfortable part of being human. Thankfully there are all the rest of the emotional spectrum balancing these things and for my penny you shine in the positives, way way brightly! ❤
Thank you Paulette. This is one of the things I appreciate about my blog. Reviewing the day. Capturing a moment/experience/thought. And others being able to give feedback and counter balance to it. Such different perspectives that I obviously didn’t think of at the time. 🙂
I hope that you’re okay Chatems.
Thank you Gibber! And I am.
Happens to the best of us, well put.
Thank you Heart.
I know what you mean and sometimes we learn from it. There is often a second chance.
This is true, and having processed the first time around, maybe I’ll be better prepared. Better educated.
No! You sound like me!
Similarities. 🙂 Ties that bind!
Hang in there, I think we have all been there. And sometimes wisdom cautions restraint too. Best to react not from emotion but from the head…and sometimes yeah, a moment is lost. “And thus does conscience does make cowards of us all.” Hamlet, but given the context of what he spoke I am glad people did not take action. Sometimes patience is courageous.
Well this makes me feel much better!!! 🙂 Thank you. I do think it was conscience, or wisdom of some sort that held the tongue…. At least it’s a possibility. I like that, “sometimes patience is courageous”-that is so true but something I had not considered.
Shame can only grow when it’s hidden, secret, not talked about. The fact that you’ve admitted your sense of shame is incredibly courageous, being vulnerable and sharing your true experience from your heart. In so doing, have you felt the shame monster lose its teeth?
After reading this comment twice, it has a little more.
But yes, actually, after reading all of the comments I did feel less shame. And on reflection, I am glad I haven’t said all I initially wanted to say. I don’t know enough. I don’t know fully how I feel. And “discretion” is not shame. And being silent is not always shameful.
Thank you Carolin.
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