Behind Your Back

It happens.

Behind your back

Your name is mentioned.

And I can’t help but hear what is said about you.

I thought I should let you know.

What others are saying.

I only repeat this

Because I believe some things bear repeating.

And when the words

Trust

Integrity

Principled

Honest

And

Forthright

Are uttered.

You deserve to know

That the moral and decent standard you live by

Is noticed.

And appreciated.

Thank you.

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47 thoughts on “Behind Your Back

  1. 1jaded1 says:

    That person is fortunate. Most of the time, people will say good things to one’s face and stab them in the back.

    • I used to be a supervisor. People would come to my office to ‘talk’. I remember having a discussion with someone about people talking about ‘me’ behind my back. I told them that I understood how sometimes we just need to express how we feel about something, or someone. If someone needs to talk about me behind my back to a friend or coworker because I’ve frustrated them and they just need to vent. I totally get that. In that discussion I told them problems get worse if the “talk” is complaining or problems that need resolved that I don’t know about and can’t address because I can’t hear it being talked about behind my back. I’ve had some great teachers with things like this.

  2. I am honored when someone sees fit to tell me what it is I need to know. Most often tis the other way around. Love the post Colleen.

    • Thank you MediatingMummy. I actually did not tell the person, face to face, who this was about. Because of a follow up I want to do about this. πŸ™‚ But that’s for a reason. But I do want them to know.

  3. dogear6 says:

    I love positive gossip! It’s such a nice thing to have happen.

    Nancy

  4. When people talk behind my back, I can only hope that is what they are saying.

  5. Kentucky Angel says:

    A lot of the things I have accidently (?) heard said behind my back haven’t been so flattering, but I consider the source. I’ve also heard good things said behind my back, and that more than makes up for everything.

    You are doing good things Colleen.

    • Aww, thanks Angie.

      I know in this world we get “personal” references from others. As we navigate new neighborhoods, new relationships, new jobs, new schools, new friendships-we get feedback from others on new people we meet. It’s like a personal reference. And when the personal reference talk is positive….and I should add….would be said to the person as well….it’s all good.

  6. Colleen I love telling people the good things that are said about them when they’re not around! ❀
    Diana xo

    • Me too. Though I haven’t shared this directly with the person it was said about. On purpose. I will be following up with this post. But I love that people say good, and it can impact others without them knowing it, in very good ways. πŸ™‚

  7. viveka says:

    Love this. …. somebody has said that if they have something good to say .. do it behind my back … if something bad tell it to my face.

  8. Nitin says:

    I doubt this happens, but then again, life has made me too skeptical Colleen, sorry.

    • Nitin! It’s good to see you! Actually this is an actual incident that happened twice in one week about the same person. It resonated with me. And it’s the kind of thing that should happen. Thank you for reading !!!

      • Nitin, I should clarify. This happened, by me hearing very positive things being said by two different people regarding another person. On two different occasions. They weren’t talking about me and I over heard. Another person was mentioned and they were well spoken of “behind their back”. Not a negative word to be heard. It was refreshing and encouraging.

  9. Too few people are able to tell the good truths, to their face.

  10. This is the easy telling, but how do you handle it when someone says terrible and things? o_O

    • Well…..it’s not easy is it Tess? But I do try. I told my boss years ago, and reminded her of it recently, I get mad about a lot of stupid stupid stuff. Sometimes I might walk out mad, and walk back in the next day and not even remember being mad. So there was no point in worrying about it. But if something is bothering me and I can’t resolve it, I will tell her about it. I’ve tried to stick to that. With her and others in my life. Though I also try to prevent things from ‘getting’ to the terrible point!

  11. I think it is wonderful that you would tell someone wonderful things that are being said about them. That takes integrity on your part.

    • πŸ™‚ Thank you Priceless. I have to be completely honest here. I haven’t told this person to their face. Yet. Because I want to do a follow up to this. But I will say something. πŸ™‚

  12. ksbeth says:

    wonderful toshare nice words said about someone. it can change everything for someone –

  13. gpcox says:

    Wonderful post and super comment on Koji’s blog for his father’s 96th birthday!

  14. Oh I love this, passing along the positive. Need more of that. ❀

  15. Anonymous says:

    Psst…..you……..yeah you…………….life is not bad.

  16. Mustang.Koji says:

    …but they forgot to say you are one fantastic writer!!

  17. niaaeryn says:

    Glad it was good gossip and not the other kind. Nice words to have said about anyone.

  18. April says:

    I can never hear what’s said behind my back because of all the negative noise I have rambling about my own mind. I’m working on it…one step at a time.

  19. markbialczak says:

    Beautiful to know that the unsaid is sometimes good things as well as tear-down gossip, my buddy Colleen. But a tad sad, too.

  20. You are a very kind soul Colleen πŸ˜‰
    I used to say, if people talked bad about other souls, they might have had a boring life, since they feel this need to talk like that. Otherwise they would talk about themselves.

  21. I know many people that fit the list of descriptors…and I probably say that about them behind their back as opposed to directly sharing my admiration. I might have to think about that this week. Nice, Colleen! πŸ™‚

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