A wonderful indicator of friendship.
Is making a mistake.
And the friendship remains intact.
Because friendships are not ruined by mistakes.
Mistakes are dealt with
By friendships.
And some friendships don’t even notice the mistakes you make.
Or care, if they do.
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So true Colleen. I had a friendship…well I thought it was for 7 years…one incident and it was over, by my ‘friend’. I tried several times to try and reconcile, to talk it over. We talked once she saying yes it was stupid and we should get together soon. That was 2 years ago and I haven’t heard from her. I miss our friendship greatly, but I realise that perhaps the friendship was not as strong as what I thought.
Shocking isn’t it? It’s almost as if that friend was just waiting for a reason to be done….when things end suddenly and it seems unreasonable there must be more to it. And I would suspect that it had nothing to do with you. I mean, if that was me in your situation, that’s what I would think. I think, that is what I would think. 😉
Thank you sweet, it was frustrating and annoying, but whoever was the cause, it was obviously meant to be. x
Oh yes, it always makes a friendship seem like a tighter bond when you’ve come through something, whether it’s a mistake, or an argument, and then there’s no weirdness afterwards. The mark of a true friend.
One of my long time friends said her father always said a true friendship had to have a disagreement of some kind to make it real. Without it, how would one know? I think I understood what he meant. But in my job I’ve also met people who have been married, or friends with people, literally for 60 and 70 years. And some have said they never fought. It wasn’t that they didn’t disagree. Interesting, the common factor was, they thought more of the person involved, than the matter that was not agreed upon. 🙂
Yes, there are some people who just don’t fight. My sister and her husband are that way. I think it’s a great way to be but I honestly don’t know how they do it!
Me either. Though I will say when I do fight with my husband, he doesn’t like it. He would be a non fighter all the way if possible. I’m not wired that way. But I’m less so now….
I hear you!
True. ❤
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Yes so true Colleen. A good friend is more precious than silver, more costly than gold. ❤
Diana xo
That’s a different twist on a the saying. I’ve never heard it like that before. 🙂
It’s not just friends, but family as well. I went through this several years ago with a family member who got offended by something I did. Instead of having it out with me, she just stopped talking to me. Told my daughter and others why she was mad, but not me. We finally patched it up, but I’ve held that relationship very loosely ever since.
Nancy
I like how you say that Nancy, “I’ve held that relationship very loosely ever since”. That makes sense. It would make me feel like I was standing on quicksand as a foundation.
There’s not a whole lot of ways for me to describe it. I love her dearly, but am not sure I will ever fully trust her to not pull something like that again.
I get that Nancy.
Or there are friends who you’ve known for 7-8 years who attack you in public, say things to you because you are nice. They still want to be your friend because of a lack of understanding that you do not push a friend around just because it seems easy to do so and sadly not realising the friend has already pushed them away.
I’m dealing with one such “friend” now. I watch the dear friends I do have, the ones who don’t care about mistakes and I hold this one friendship in a space that says… Just be, do nothing.
That’s hard. I know we all go through difficult times and want our friends to stick by us. But if this is a long standing personality or behavior….. wow.
Wow indeed. It is what it is. I’m blessed to have dear friends who weather storms with me. Life wouldn’t be interesting if we didn’t meet people along the way who taught us valuable lessons.
THAT is a great way to look at it MediatingMummy. 🙂 Thank you for sharing it like that. 🙂
Yeah I learned that one this past year when I made a mistake with so called close friends and rather than working it out with me, they never talked to me again. That sucked.
That really does sum it up Huck, it does just suck. I’m sorry. 😦
It does.
I had a friend for 40 years who didn’t want to be friends anymore. Forty years. I tried calling her and we did talk on the phone but it wasn’t the same. Three years later now, and I wonder how we lasted so long and then not.
Wow. 40 years is a long time to just….be done. That’s longer than marriages. And businesses. And….wow. I’m sorry Tess. I think when we see a friendship coming apart at the seams we can deal with it better. But when we just don’t see it coming or the reasoning of the loss of it…. All the questions….
Yup. It stinks but I’ve moved on. Still I must confess, the question haunts me now and again.
I can imagine it would. Even when we deal with things, I think it’s natural that the thought of it still occurs….
True, but it occurs less and less. ❤
That’s good. 🙂 The less and less of it. And hopefully with the less frequency comes a quicker processing it right back out of the thinker. 😉
Hope so…
This is very true! Great poem Colleen!
Thank you Priceless! 🙂
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I think we can only do the best we can in all instances. I feel friends forgive mistakes, if they are not continuous. I have written about giving up ‘so-called’ friends, who were either fair weather friends or ones who leaned all the time but didn’t wish to create balance and listen or understand when I needed to be ‘heard.’ True friends weather the storms and batten the hatches, in for the ‘long haul,’ Colleen. Love how you put this, sincerely great post!
Thank you Robin. Like all relationships, it does indeed take effort. I like your analogy Robin. 🙂
I have to tell you that my nautical references come from my ‘city kid’ Dad who loved retiring to Lake Erie, he tried to sound like a sailor, but no swearing after he had grandchildren. (Yes, as children my brothers and I heard those bad words.) Glad you enjoyed the analogy, which I felt compelled to smile, thinking of where they came from.
So very true!!
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Some friends help you dig out from the fallout, MBC. I bet I know what you’d do. 🙂
😀 I’m sure I’ve failed a friend or two. But I’ve been very lucky in my life MBM. My friends have been forgiving of me, encouraging of me, and lifting me up of me! 🙂 I hope I have done the same. 🙂
That’s what friendship is about. Falling and helping each other up, MBC. ❤
So true. I have been grateful for my friends and vice versa as we work out issues rather than not. Friendship takes work just as relationships, and they are worth it. 🙂
Amen Niaaeryn!!!!! 😀
I don’t have any true friends to test this theory.
Hhhhmmmmmm……how’s about going and asking that fella you’re married to what he thinks about this? 😉
oh (shuffles feet)
😀 Shuffle with a grin I hope.
Yes, how could I forget my best friend?
😀 In fairness, I ‘think’ you were thinking of other friendships. But sounds like you have a rock solid one for sure. 🙂
I do!
So very true. 🙂
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Great poem. At the end of the day, situations like that are what makes us stronger in life and they make us appreciate the ones that are truly there for us.
Great point Cheryl. I believe the parents and grandparents who all our lives have told us that “at the end of the day” if you have a good friend, or two, you have been very blessed/lucky.
Exactly! Perfectly said ❤
Thank you NAPR. ❤
I think I have had to test this principle a number of times in my life and it definitely does define true friendship. The relationships that couldn’t weather a few bumps weren’t very solid. The true friendships have even taken a battering and are still solid! 🙂
There’s a lot to be said for having a relationship or two in your/our life that weathers it all. Some aren’t so lucky. 🙂
that is a true friend, when they don’t notice, or pretend not to! What a fine poet you are!
Thank you Heart, I have friends this wonderful to me. 🙂
You are brilliant. Love all your words, posts, and pictures. You just keep inspiring and raising the level of consciousness by BEing you…I love you.
Millie….you have again, made my day. Thank you. For loving me. And making me feel so loved. I love you as well.
You are delightful to love…what’s not to love, darling? hugs and kisses
Real friend. We will have few. A true friend will come to you when you are in a bad place or come to you to help change a tire on a Winter night.
Mistakes are dealt with
By friendships.”
I agree with the above lines.
Beautifully said John. Friends will come to you. Thank you for reading, and sharing with me.