Make a statement.

Follow it with


And effectively erase everything you just said.


“I love you.   But…..”

“I hear you.  But….”

“I understand you.  But…”

“You’re a good writer.  But….”

“You’re a good wife.   But…..”

My husband suggested that last one…..


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47 thoughts on “Negate

  1. Ann Koplow says:

    I love this post. No buts.

  2. Heartafire says:

    so true!

  3. inmycorner says:

    No if’s, and’s, or but’s about it!

  4. I can’t stand the word but, but…

  5. April says:

    That is my inner self talk. I don’t do it to others, just to myself….how negative can one get before turning it around?

    • I think we all have a negative component to us. I know I do. I think you do a great job of processing it out.

      • April says:

        I’m working on it. I find myself slipping but maybe I should look at is as normal? Meaning I should quit beating myself up for any negative thought. I agree with you, I think we all have a little bit in us. I just have an abundance–well, I used to.

        • I think it’s normal. Not that I know much. We probably beat ourselves up more for having the negative thought, than actually having the thought to begin with. 🙂 We’ll get their April.

  6. You know, I always find myself wondering about whether that is always true Colleen. I guess it depends on what the second half of the sentence is, but then again, what do I know? ❤
    Diana xo

  7. ksbeth says:

    but your posts are always wonderful no matter what –

  8. Haven’t thought about the ‘but’ afterwards for ages. It’s like a slosh of cold water, isn’t it?

  9. duncanr says:

    is he still your husband ? 😆

  10. This is so true! (Not about you though). haha! 😀

  11. Anonymous says:

    Whenever tom are having an argum…..I mean heated discuss…. I mean disagreement, he always says I can’t use but… It is hard not to use but…!

  12. Val Boyko says:

    We all need to learn the lesson of not putting our buts in other people’s faces!

  13. bikebrown says:

    I said this post should be called “the but erasure.” Everything you say after but erases everything before.

  14. Debra says:

    Good point! I am test myself to see how many times I use this word!

  15. Not quite 40 says:

    Use ‘and’ instead. ..

  16. niaaeryn says:

    True. And agreed :/ Oh negations. Yet (not “but” however a similar meaning) it is nice when people help call us out on what we do on autopilot…sometimes…and sometimes it is more frustrating than helpful.
    Adverbial modifiers instead? 🙂

  17. When I was a child my dad would say to me and the sibs that he could power his motor boat with all the but, but, but, but, buts we threw at him. You’d think he’d be thrilled with us saying it so often, really Dad! BUT, seriously, it definitely made me more aware of when I used it. 🙂

  18. reocochran says:

    Mainly, I agree but. . . 🙂
    Gotcha! 😀

  19. A good lesson Colleen 😀

  20. tric says:

    I don’t notice myself being a ‘but’ person. I think I’ll listen to myself and see.

  21. I think I need to have jar filled with quarters for every but I use. It is so often, something drastic needs to be done. It completely negates everything I want to say seriously or otherwise.

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