Make a statement.
Follow it with
“But”
And effectively erase everything you just said.
Negated.
“I love you. But…..”
“I hear you. But….”
“I understand you. But…”
“You’re a good writer. But….”
“You’re a good wife. But…..”
My husband suggested that last one…..
The Chatter Blog 
I love this post. No buts.
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🙂 Thank you Ann. But don’t think my husband hasn’t called me on every but I’ve said today!
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so true!
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🙂
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No if’s, and’s, or but’s about it!
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Ha! 🙂 None at all!
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I can’t stand the word but, but…
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But it needs to be said….
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true dat!
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That is my inner self talk. I don’t do it to others, just to myself….how negative can one get before turning it around?
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I think we all have a negative component to us. I know I do. I think you do a great job of processing it out.
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I’m working on it. I find myself slipping but maybe I should look at is as normal? Meaning I should quit beating myself up for any negative thought. I agree with you, I think we all have a little bit in us. I just have an abundance–well, I used to.
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I think it’s normal. Not that I know much. We probably beat ourselves up more for having the negative thought, than actually having the thought to begin with. 🙂 We’ll get their April.
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You know, I always find myself wondering about whether that is always true Colleen. I guess it depends on what the second half of the sentence is, but then again, what do I know? ❤
Diana xo
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I think you are right. I could say “I understand that you like xxxxxx but I don’t like it”. That’s not a bad thing. I am sure there are many more examples. But ……
😉
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😉
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but your posts are always wonderful no matter what –
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Thank you Beth! 🙂
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Haven’t thought about the ‘but’ afterwards for ages. It’s like a slosh of cold water, isn’t it?
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It sure can be Tess…..
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Yup. 😦
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is he still your husband ? 😆
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Hahahahaha! He is!
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This is so true! (Not about you though). haha! 😀
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Oh Priceless, you are SO good to me! But….truth be told….I utter ‘buts’. 🙂
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Well, none of us are perfect! LOL!! Haha! I am sure we all utter “buts”. LOL!
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Amen!
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Whenever tom are having an argum…..I mean heated discuss…. I mean disagreement, he always says I can’t use but… It is hard not to use but…!
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It is! My husband has been calling me on it all day! 🙂
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We all need to learn the lesson of not putting our buts in other people’s faces!
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OH VAL! This is THE best!!!! 🙂
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I said this post should be called “the but erasure.” Everything you say after but erases everything before.
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It so very well can!!
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Good point! I am going.to test myself to see how many times I use this word!
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Use ‘and’ instead. ..
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True. And agreed
Oh negations. Yet (not “but” however a similar meaning) it is nice when people help call us out on what we do on autopilot…sometimes…and sometimes it is more frustrating than helpful.
Adverbial modifiers instead? 🙂
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When I was a child my dad would say to me and the sibs that he could power his motor boat with all the but, but, but, but, buts we threw at him. You’d think he’d be thrilled with us saying it so often, really Dad! BUT, seriously, it definitely made me more aware of when I used it. 🙂
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What a great way to make someone aware! I love that idea. 🙂
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Mainly, I agree but. . . 🙂
Gotcha! 😀
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Ha! You did get me Robin! 🙂
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A good lesson Colleen 😀
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I try to learn from my experiences….but I don’t always. 😀
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We are only humans Colleen and humans do mistakes, even we try our best not to 😀
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True true true!
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I don’t notice myself being a ‘but’ person. I think I’ll listen to myself and see.
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I think I need to have jar filled with quarters for every but I use. It is so often, something drastic needs to be done. It completely negates everything I want to say seriously or otherwise.
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Sigh. And double sigh. We all do it. Intentional or not. I’m kind of mindless when I do it, but of course hear it when others do it. Seems I need to work on my but. (s).
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