When you start setting parameters on a friendship
It stops being a relationship
And becomes a business.
I hear that!
I’ve come to believe that if it isn’t unconditional, it isn’t love.
Ain’t that the truth Russ!
I have bailed on friendships that threatened to drag me under. it doesn’t feel good but you have to be your own best friend first. And you keep telling yourself that over and over.
Right. This actually came to me while I was with my friend. We were talking about whatever we were talking about. And I realized I could say anything to her and she wouldn’t judge me. Which made me think of other “kinds” of friendships. One particular, years ago, that put ‘parameters’ on our friendship. I couldn’t meet those demands.
I haven’t experienced this before and know I wouldn’t recognise it if it hit me in the face, but what a good way to describe this!
I had it happen once. It came back to me in a thought yesterday while talking to someone who would never put parameters out there.
How sad that someone would set parameters on a friendship. Why would they do that?? Colleen, you are my friend and no parameters!! 🙂 🙂 🙂
Aww, thanks Priceless. It happens. This was actually prompted by talking to a friend where there were no parameters and I thought….how lucky I am. 🙂
Interesting concept and way of looking at friendship.
I’ve been very lucky Paulette. 🙂
Yup. Uh-huh. Yes siree. Agree. ❤
🙂 Thank you friend.
You are more than welcome, Colleen. Always. ❤
Relationships shift and come and go. It’s good to recognize when the head takes over and the heart begins to close. 💛
Recognition, that’s key. And a great pointer. Thank you Val ❤
Friends not business, have gone through that and it was so stressful, I was not being the kind of friend I should be, but couldn’t get it right!
There is no solid blue print for friendship is there? Sometimes it’s a good fit, sometimes not, and sometimes it takes a while to find out.
yes that is so true! For me it should be light and easy and just be. haha loved your post!
🙂 I like ‘your way’. 🙂
What an interesting perspective, Colleen. I have recently been considering instituting some limits, but you’ve really given me something to think about!
Hhhmmmmmm. After I wrote this I wondered….boundaries. Boundaries can be good things. But I see them differently than parameters. Boundaries are more about me and my personal needs (like I’m not a free for all hugger). But parameters are when restrictions or demands are made of a relationship….at least in my head. 🙂
Mmm – but you still love me, right?
Absolutely Julie! ❤ 🙂
you have me thinking….I finally let go of a “friend” because our relationship was all about her.
Sometimes it just isn’t comfortable, is it?
Colleen, I think of friendship having no limits or any particular reason to continue other than very valuable words: “Because we are friends!”
Friendship that tips the scale on import rather than export – is not a good friendship. Trade must be fair. There must be profit sharing. There has to be “sensitivity” to the environment. Good friendship must be profitable for both parties. Hmm. Interesting concept that I could play around with for a while longer… thanks, Colleen for the inspiration.
I hope to see what you came up with while playing around. Every friendship may tip the scales in one direction or the other at times, but I can’t imagine the strength of a person who is constantly giving, never to be replenished.
Very true Colleen 😀
So true Chatter, that’s no kind of way to treat a friend!
That’s what I thought too. 😉
🙂 thank you.
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