I’m Not In It For The Business

When you start setting parameters on a friendship

It stops being a relationship

And becomes a business.



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40 thoughts on “I’m Not In It For The Business

  1. russtowne says:

    I’ve come to believe that if it isn’t unconditional, it isn’t love.



  2. I have bailed on friendships that threatened to drag me under. it doesn’t feel good but you have to be your own best friend first. And you keep telling yourself that over and over.


    • Right. This actually came to me while I was with my friend. We were talking about whatever we were talking about. And I realized I could say anything to her and she wouldn’t judge me. Which made me think of other “kinds” of friendships. One particular, years ago, that put ‘parameters’ on our friendship. I couldn’t meet those demands.


  3. Ocean Bream says:

    I haven’t experienced this before and know I wouldn’t recognise it if it hit me in the face, but what a good way to describe this!


  4. How sad that someone would set parameters on a friendship. Why would they do that?? Colleen, you are my friend and no parameters!! 🙂 🙂 🙂


  5. Interesting concept and way of looking at friendship.


  6. Yup. Uh-huh. Yes siree. Agree. ❤


  7. Val Boyko says:

    Relationships shift and come and go. It’s good to recognize when the head takes over and the heart begins to close. 💛


  8. Friends not business, have gone through that and it was so stressful, I was not being the kind of friend I should be, but couldn’t get it right!


  9. Debra says:

    What an interesting perspective, Colleen. I have recently been considering instituting some limits, but you’ve really given me something to think about!


    • Hhhmmmmmm. After I wrote this I wondered….boundaries. Boundaries can be good things. But I see them differently than parameters. Boundaries are more about me and my personal needs (like I’m not a free for all hugger). But parameters are when restrictions or demands are made of a relationship….at least in my head. 🙂


  10. jmgoyder says:

    Mmm – but you still love me, right?


  11. April says:

    you have me thinking….I finally let go of a “friend” because our relationship was all about her.


  12. reocochran says:

    Colleen, I think of friendship having no limits or any particular reason to continue other than very valuable words: “Because we are friends!”


  13. inmycorner says:

    Friendship that tips the scale on import rather than export – is not a good friendship. Trade must be fair. There must be profit sharing. There has to be “sensitivity” to the environment. Good friendship must be profitable for both parties. Hmm. Interesting concept that I could play around with for a while longer… thanks, Colleen for the inspiration.


  14. Very true Colleen 😀


  15. Heartafire says:

    So true Chatter, that’s no kind of way to treat a friend!


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