I’m Done

I’ve spent an inordinate amount of my life asking permission and seeking approval.

I’m done asking and I’m done seeking.

I hope that’s okay with you.

Is it?


I hope you still like me.


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34 thoughts on “I’m Done

  1. M. L. Kappa says:

    Me too. Must being the eldest child, in my case at least. And yes, I’m done too.

  2. Tanya Cliff says:

    It is okay with me….I’m actually standing up clapping! You do rock, Colleen.

  3. reocochran says:

    Oh, if only I could reach your early assumption of being free of worries and asking permission. As with you, it may be a goal but the reality may just be, continuing my same old self. I hope that won’t bother you, Colleen! 😉

  4. Paul says:

    Bwahahaha! Asking for forgiveness rather than permission is a powerful but tricky procedure. It takes a fine tuned sense of the politics of the situation. You have plenty enough experience to feel your way through that one. The biggest one of those I ever saw was written up in the business literature. A biochemist at Merk was testing samples for activity in a controlled trial and he was using six known diseases as a benchmark. One happened to be river blindness – a parasite that killed millions in Africa and was transmitted by water supplies. The test killed every parasite dead on contact – a complete surprise. He took it to the CEO and the board and the board would not produce it because the market was not big enough. The CEO disagreed and went to the WHO, the counties involved, the health dept, etc – no one would allow it or even encourage it -for different reasons. He offered it free and the countries’ pride caused them to refuse. So, the CEO went ahead and spent over $1 billion dollars of Merk’s money in direct disobedience of the board of directors and the governments of the countries. He made a secret deal with MSF (Medecins Sans Frontiers) to distribute it in pill form. It only required 2 applications and the disease was stopped or unable to infect the patient for a lifetime. When over a million people had been cured and the disease eradicated, his company found out what he had done and fired him for misappropriating $1 billion. MSF went to the media and the countries where he had cured the disease were shamed into making him a hero. They had statues erected and declared a holiday in his name. The public was so enthralled by the story that Merk’s share price doubled in a very short time, effectively adding over 5 billion dollars of value to the company. The board of directors was forced to rehire and increase the wages of the CEO.

    • I have a friend, who at one point pretended to be my boss, and she always lived by the mantra “ask for forgiveness later”.

      Your story is perfect. If I truly had kudos to give, it would be to this man who showed more character than I can possibly attain. What courage for him to do the right thing. And Paul, how sad is it that we have to have courage to do the right thing?

      • Paul says:

        So very true Colleen, so very true. i hadn’t even considered that but you are exactly right – we have built a society powered by forces other than right.

        • It’s happened more times than I care to recall, on a small scale. Nothing comparable to your story. It just seems so – wrong. I was going to try and go deeper with it. But simply, it’s just wrong.

  5. Hahahahaha! You are so funny!

  6. Love it. So funny. Yet such a real issue for so many, for way too long ! ☺

  7. Ha, ha! That is so me!…well, and I guess you as well!

  8. You betcha. You’re absolutely perfect as is and I’m blessed to know you. 🙂

  9. tric says:

    Haha. Great one. I’m afraid I was always, and still am more a ‘whoops sorry’ sort of person.

  10. lbeth1950 says:

    I am more at forging ahead, then apologizing if I must. Takes all kinds.

  11. Debra says:

    Yes, indeed, Colleen. I definitely still like you. You encourage me along quite regularly! I have the same condition…approval seeking. It’s so deeply entrenched I may need to see a surgeon to have it removed. 🙂 Good luck in your own progress along this path of freedom, my friend!

  12. Paul says:

    As an aside Colleen, I did guest post over at Mark Bialczak’s https://markbialczak.com/2016/08/21/harry/ If you have time to drop by, I would be honored. Thank You

  13. taylormitch says:

    We should not have to ask permission and/or seek approval to be ourselves and live our lives to the fullest. It is that very seem thinking that has made me re-evaluate some friendships this summer and let them go! And all I can say about that is wow…..a huge weight has been lifted!

    • Glad you are lighter!!!! 😉

      ANd you’re right, we should have to ask. It’s a burden I have to work hard at letting go of. It served me well when I needed it, but I don’t need it now.

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