I just read this week that we easily recall the negative things people say to us.

More so, than the positive things people say.

So I thought I would list the negative things that I remember.


That I know negative things have been said.

But I can’t think of one,

To list.

That is either a commentary on my memory

Or a commentary on what I find important.

Side note,

Just because I read something doesn’t mean it applies to me.

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37 thoughts on “Commentary

  1. rugby843 says:

    I remember some of the bad but all of the good. I have to think a while for the bad.


  2. Ocean Bream says:

    Nice one, Colleen. It’s really good that you don’t remember the negative things. Those things tend to leave a stain on the system. I remember when I was nine years old my ‘friend’s’ little sister told me my ‘friend’ said I was ‘obnoxious’. I had no idea what that word meant at the time, but it seared through me like a knife. Now that friend and I are really really close still, and the insult doesn’t hurt anymore, but it is not something I will forget easily. That being said, however, I am surprised that it is easier to remember negative things – I always remember remembering positive things people have said – it’s like a coping mechanism, you tend to forget negative things or push them to the back of your memory, and focus on the things that make you happy, no? This was a really good, thoughtworthy little post. πŸ™‚


  3. Good, that you don’t collect the negative sayings, Colleen πŸ™‚
    I don’t remember much of negative sayings either, only negative actings, if they have been really bad.


  4. ksbeth says:

    and that’s a good thing. maybe our minds are kinder to us than we are, at times.


  5. I think it is a commentary on what you find important. Very wise!


  6. I remember everything. But, the older I get, the easier it is to focus on what matters to me. Selective memory is an acquired skill.


  7. Some say enlightenment is existing without thought, being present in the moment. Doubtful my mind will ever stop with the thinking machine it’s so in love with: good and bad. But wow, what a powerful commentary to not remember anything bad said. That’s great! πŸ™‚

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    • Now, if I can stop the creation of negative comments in my head. πŸ™‚ One step closer I think. And like you, my brain doesn’t stop. They actually told me that in a sleep study. But didn’t tell me how to deal with that!


  8. I am sure there were and are plenty of negative things said about me but I don’t know what they are and I really don’t care. I did love your post though. That’s positive, ☺☺☺


  9. Jim McKeever says:

    I’m afraid I’m a very memorable person, Colleen. πŸ™‚


  10. No sense in looking backward when you’re walking ahead. Don’t want to trip, right. πŸ˜‰
    For me, whatever happened yesterday and so on, gets filed away and I move on.


  11. russtowne says:

    I’m impressed. I sometimes get hit by waves of negative things people have said to me over the years. I attempt to focus on reminding myself most such comments are merely ego echoes from which I’ve already learned the lessons they offered.


    • I used to wallow in such things. Sometimes I think it can be helpful if we are healthy enough to process it and benefit from it. But there were times in my life Russ, where I wasn’t able to do anything but be sad about it. And now, I can’t recall these things. Not that it won’t happen and I do think of something. But for the writing of this, I felt good about not being able to recall. I think we felt the same way about this.


  12. goldenbrodie says:

    Correct a Munro! Nice to remember the good.
    A golden good way to be🐾🐾


  13. I recall so few negative comments or things, not because they never happened, but because they no longer matter. Either that, or age has taken its toll!


  14. reocochran says:

    I tend to not dwell on the negative elements in my life or in the news. I thank God, my parents and my children for their supportive love given freely. I would have had less resilience had my parents hadn’t instilled me with tons of love and confidence. The core within ourselves is how we keep our chin up and persevere, don’t you think? xo


    • I do think so too Robin. Used to be a time though, when I couldn’t let those things go. I’d let the negative things eat away at me. I’m not saying they don’t resurface, but when I went to write this, I truly couldn’t think of one. So now it seems easier to let them go. Or forget them! πŸ˜‰


  15. It’s good to remember the positive for sure!


  16. Debra says:

    It’s a testament to both resilience and the art of always looking forward that keeps you from being mired by words that hurt. The minute they are said, they are in the past! You set a good intention for the rest of us, Colleen!


    • Thank you Debra. When I write these things it’s more of a …discipline? That’s not right. A reminder…to myself to do these things. I’m more likely to pay attention to the things I want to do better in life if I write them down. πŸ™‚


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