Not All Of Her Decisions

She was telling me about her life.

She cried.

I remained silent.

She told me that  not all of her decisions, quite honestly – many of them, were good ones.

She knows that.

And now she knows that the decisions of her past are impacting other’s present.

She has a difficult time knowing this.

There wasn’t anything I could do to change this.

 

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30 thoughts on “Not All Of Her Decisions

  1. We can’t control other people, it’s so hard when things are out of our hands. Great post. ❤

  2. tric says:

    I try to make difficult decisions using the mantra ‘no regrets’. How sad to look back with regrets.

    • I meet with a lot of people who look back like that. Sometimes are harder than others to listen to. What gives me hope for them is when they recognize them, don’t blame others, and are trying to make amends or changes. I see that too.

  3. ksbeth says:

    and her burden lies heavily upon her. i’m sure just to have you listen a bit helps a bit to lighten what holds her.

  4. markbialczak says:

    Life sure is complicated, soul upon soul, action upon action. Listen, think, learn, respond in kind. You are good to share, MBC.

    • Thank you MBM. It was humbling, even, to listen. Because as I did I realized I couldn’t say anything of value to her so I had to remain quiet. Even when I wanted to comfort.

  5. So very sad. Our decisions do impact other’s lives more than we realize.

  6. Sometimes it’s very wise to see what we can’t change and let it be. Sad.

  7. Regret is a bitter feeling. It’s good to remember things that we’ve done, examine them and then put them away again. Moving forward and hopefully learning from our past. To be stuck in that place is so destructive.

  8. Ah. Acceptance. It’s necessary. Even in cold and dark moments.

    Appreciate your craft. And your support of my blog and me. Especially when I’m going through the wringer with things…

  9. russtowne says:

    “If only.” Bitter words that can sting the soul.

  10. Listening can be so hard, but it is always worth the effort. Silence can speak volumes too, and can hold enormous wisdom. Sometimes you just have to allow someone to vent their spleen and give them a hug as you part.

    • And sometimes it’s hard to gauge exactly what the other person needs Peter. But fortunately it was what was needed. I really couldn’t do anything else. I couldn’t erase it for her. I couldn’t make it better or pretend it was just “going to be” better. So I said nothing. And she said what she needed to say. She vented that spleen Peter.

  11. reocochran says:

    I’m not sure I have ever come to the end of a person’s venting or even unloading without a few words said. I admire listening without comment.

  12. But God is merciful and forgiving.

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