I am just venturing back into the world of reading blogs and yours just popped up. Serendipity? Connection? Who knows? But this silence, no matter how you meant it, is, for me a cool breeze.
I like, treasure, our connection. And I like the idea of a cool breeze being created here, and making it’s way over to you, and wishing you a soft hello from afar. 🙂 The next breeze you feel, consider it from me. ❤
yes too much is somethimes like nothing at all. But than there is the difference, that too much shows the emotional arousal. The need to share, even if you can not exactly position yourself, or too much is going on in your head. It shows the other an “openness”. You can call it stupidity because you can easily read the other´s face, but maybe it is actually a craving to let the other know your honesty. To let them know, that you care. If you say nothing you are without doubt the wiser man and better protected, but also the other could think you just do not care.
well I like Ellens comment…say something when it is more beautiful than silence….in practise it is often more, not really to know what to say…..or just beeing overstrained and decide to stay zen and good to yourself for a moment?
You’ve made me smile in thinking about this, Colleen. I’ve recently wondered if I could “contain myself” a bit more and say a whole lot less! I’m giving it a try. I’ll have to see how it works out, however. 🙂
I think the one thing I would like to work on is trying to stop filling the air with so much non-talk. YOu know, talking about anything and everything other than what I want to scream. 😉
Funny, this is something I’ve been pondering lately too. I find myself keeping my mouth shut when a younger, less wiser Betsy, like from last week, would totally be saying something. And when I made this revelation about just keeping quiet, I thought, wow, did I just get wiser? Next trick–to remember this new found knowledge!
What a poignant thought! I often find myself keeping quiet when I have words to share but don’t know how or am unsure about the reception, though the latter (talking just to fill silence) doesn’t apply to me as well, being a naturally quiet person. Balance is difficult to find…
I think ‘finding balance’ is a constant theme to my life. And thank you Abigail. 🙂 I prefer to be quiet but as soon as I am I am bombarded with “what’s wrong” in SO many forms.
hmm, yes that’s unfortunately so, that silence is not respected. I think it keeps the others insecure. They are thinking (which also makes sense and sometimes the sense of silence) and then they worry and maybe get scared. Persistent silence is the opposite of communication. And without communication, the best relationships will eventually come apart.
I am just venturing back into the world of reading blogs and yours just popped up. Serendipity? Connection? Who knows? But this silence, no matter how you meant it, is, for me a cool breeze.
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I like, treasure, our connection. And I like the idea of a cool breeze being created here, and making it’s way over to you, and wishing you a soft hello from afar. 🙂 The next breeze you feel, consider it from me. ❤
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Silence has a language of its own 🙂
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That is so true. Thank you Sunniesmybunnies.
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You do well to hold your tongue like that, MBC. What a true art!
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😉 I try my best. (Sometimes I fail.)
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Don’t we all, MBC.
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I would think so. 😉
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LOL! Sometimes that is the best thing to say — nothing.
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Absolutely Priceless!
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LOL!
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😉
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I hear ya!!
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Hahahahahahahahaha! 😉
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Your blog’s beautiful❤
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Thank you Rida Yumn Ahmed 🙂
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…and I’m keeping Mum!
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😉 me and you both Peter. (Uhm…..most times.)
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Yes, I must admit I can be too honest for my own good at times!
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😉
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Oh boy do I relate to that. 🙂
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Well I am in good company!
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just in point.. as always!
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Thank you Anya 🙂
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Is it weird that I totally get what you’re saying. 🙂
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Not weird at all. Or, if it is, many of us are standing on the SS Weirdship with you. 🙂
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Oh my goodness that is me! especially these past few days.
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Seems there is a crowd of us MM. 🙂
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I love it. 😊
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Thank you 🙂
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Sometimes it’s the wisest choice!
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Amen BCM. 😉
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Me too.
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Club membership is growing Russ.
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Hahaha. Love it, although sometimes I open my mouth and say too much. I need more practice.
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Well, the saying too much thing is sometimes a way of not saying something too. 😉
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Not the way I say it!
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yes too much is somethimes like nothing at all. But than there is the difference, that too much shows the emotional arousal. The need to share, even if you can not exactly position yourself, or too much is going on in your head. It shows the other an “openness”. You can call it stupidity because you can easily read the other´s face, but maybe it is actually a craving to let the other know your honesty. To let them know, that you care. If you say nothing you are without doubt the wiser man and better protected, but also the other could think you just do not care.
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I snort laughed reading that.
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Perfect
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Thank you. 🙂
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You are a very wise woman. “Open your mouth only if what you are going to say is more beautiful than silence.” – unknown.
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That is a perfect quote Ellen. Thank you for thinking me wise. I’m just a learner. 🙂
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well I like Ellens comment…say something when it is more beautiful than silence….in practise it is often more, not really to know what to say…..or just beeing overstrained and decide to stay zen and good to yourself for a moment?
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Stay good to yourself for a moment. I like that Anie. 🙂
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Ah! you said all of this very well and I exactly know what you are saying 🙂
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🙂 It seems there are quite a few of us who relate well Infinite. 🙂
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True 🙂
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I love how you put this, so very true
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Thank you Lynn!
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and that says a lot!
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I see what you did there. 😉
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I feel like your in my head..lol
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Hahahahaha! Thanks for letting me visit! 😉
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You’ve made me smile in thinking about this, Colleen. I’ve recently wondered if I could “contain myself” a bit more and say a whole lot less! I’m giving it a try. I’ll have to see how it works out, however. 🙂
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I think the one thing I would like to work on is trying to stop filling the air with so much non-talk. YOu know, talking about anything and everything other than what I want to scream. 😉
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Funny, this is something I’ve been pondering lately too. I find myself keeping my mouth shut when a younger, less wiser Betsy, like from last week, would totally be saying something. And when I made this revelation about just keeping quiet, I thought, wow, did I just get wiser? Next trick–to remember this new found knowledge!
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You’ve got the first step! 🙂
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What a poignant thought! I often find myself keeping quiet when I have words to share but don’t know how or am unsure about the reception, though the latter (talking just to fill silence) doesn’t apply to me as well, being a naturally quiet person. Balance is difficult to find…
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I think ‘finding balance’ is a constant theme to my life. And thank you Abigail. 🙂 I prefer to be quiet but as soon as I am I am bombarded with “what’s wrong” in SO many forms.
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So true! Too often silence is not regarded as the gold it can be.
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hmm, yes that’s unfortunately so, that silence is not respected. I think it keeps the others insecure. They are thinking (which also makes sense and sometimes the sense of silence) and then they worry and maybe get scared. Persistent silence is the opposite of communication. And without communication, the best relationships will eventually come apart.
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Well said Abigail.
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