Random Love Thoughts

I believe in love at first site.  Even if it didn’t happen to me.

I believe in young love that lasts forever.  It didn’t happen to me though.

I believe people can fall in love, love passionately and truly.  And stop.  Stop loving passionately, stop loving at all.   This didn’t happen to me either.

I believe in marriage and all that marriage should be.

I have failed in marriage.  Even after enjoying success and love within it.

I believe that marriage is not for everyone.

I believe everyone should determine if marriage is right for them.

I believe that some marriages should be ended.

I know marriages that have ended that never should have ended.

I am surprised when I come across a ninety year old person who had a divorce in their early years.  I am surprised even though I come across a lot of them.   Divorce has been around for a very long time.  But with all of the advances in communication, media and technology EVERYTHING is talked about more openly.  Literally, everything.

I don’t see all divorces as bad.  Though most divorces result in someone being hurt, usually more than one person, in one way or another.  Do we give up too easily?  Possibly.  But I have also come across some very bitter, angry and suffering people who don’t believe in divorce.  Some believe in the commitment, the sanctity of marriage enough, to stay miserable together.  I have had elderly people tell me that they didn’t get divorced because of what others said or would think.  I have had younger people tell me they oppose divorce but they hate being married.

I have met married people who when I am around them, I think, this-this is right.  There is comfort to me in being exposed to their relationship.  Just because it works.  I feel it.  And it feels good.

I believe love can not be easily defined.  It shouldn’t be defined by me for you, or by you for me.

I’ve seen people who cuss and carry on at one another who love each other with passion and fire.  I’ve seen quiet and respectful people who could not stand the site of their spouse.  I am not exaggerating this, in my lines of work, people have told me ALL kinds of things.

I believe in love.  I think love changes us.  I think the shape of love can change over the course of time.

I believe in all of this.  But it’s just my belief.

Just some random thoughts about love.  It’s a good thing.  Often difficult, often lofty, always good.

65 thoughts on “Random Love Thoughts

  1. I believe in love too Colleen , I also believe marriage is a hard work, and commitment, and sacrifice. And it is not for everyone. And that we give up to easily. But again – some should have divorced long time ago. I believe in love from the first sight. It did happen to me once. I agree with everything you wrote above. Great post my dear 🙂 Love reading you 🙂

    Liked by 2 people

  2. What a great post to find on a rainy Monday morning. Love is often difficult, but always good, agreed! Your post would be wonderful food for thought for those people stuck in the between; you provide a perspective that allows one to step outside the rules and prescriptions of marriage mandates, so to speak.

    Liked by 1 person

  3. I think that some people give up too easily. I also think that if you can’t stand the sight of your spouse then you need to get a divorce and let them find someone that loves them. I am sure you hear a lot in your line of work. Very interesting!

    Liked by 1 person

  4. I believe in love. Still do. But I guess I’m scarred and scared now to allow my soul to go through the pleasure and pangs of love; hence I love from a distance.

    Like

  5. There are a million ways to live a good life, I think. I can at times lapse into questioning what others do, but in the end, it really is about the fact that almost all people are doing the best they can creating as good a life for themselves as possible. I like your random thoughts. 🙂

    Like

  6. I believe in love. I believe it can heal you and make you strong. It can also blind you and hurt you. The right love is like good health, life is less without it, but it can be a matter of good luck to find it.
    Over thirty years ago as a young nurse in Australia my friends out there were amazed we’d no divorce in Ireland, “What, you just have to stay together? That’s mad.” And it was, They predicted we’d be a nation full of broken marriages if we brought it in but it hasn’t happened. Divorce doesn’t kill marriages, it allows love to grow again. We all deserve to love and be loved.

    Liked by 1 person

  7. Your random thoughts on love and marriage are so exact and perfect, the way I think about it too. I think the sanctity perspective for a marriage that is struggling becomes worth what it means if both involved our committed to not giving up and using their relationship to evolve personally to the extent that they eventually rise above what is causing the struggle. It is easier said than done but I know it is not impossible. It takes a lot of honoring of the human/spiritual journey, courage, strength and compassion for self and the other. That is what becomes Love.

    Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.