This is from a story I told back in 2016 but I felt this could stand on it’s own. The story haunts me as a parent when I reflect on my own parenting. Beyond Our Ability.
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It Just Ain’t
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Same here.
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Sigh.
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So true Colleen…
We are not robots
We are not managed
By remote controls ..
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Well said Ivor.
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right, we would if we could
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Exactly. (I own my guilt of that, I am sure, as a mom.)
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So so true Colleen. I remember this post of yours actually because it so resonated with me. Have to keep checking ourselves when we deal with pint sized meltdowns. 😦
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Oh OB, so right. Even now I cringe at how I may have handled my kids meltdowns. I don’t think I was horrible but I know I failed on an occasion or two.
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Ahhh we all live and learn Colleen. Won’t do any good being hard on ourselves for things we didn’t know/couldn’t control! Time is a good teacher. I am sure you were a fantastic mother to your littles and they have wonderful memories!
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Thank you OB. I think we do attempt to be our best. I hope my children mirror your expressions ❤️
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I am sure they do ❤
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The abracadabra method just doesn’t do it, I get it, MBC.
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Right? Not for me for sure.
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Totally agree. I wonder why people say these things. Especially when I lost my husband they’d say stuff that made me want to shout, “shut Up. I want to sob my heart out… and f I want to scream, I will.” Each of us has our own way of dealing with the highs and lows of life, especially loss. I appreciated their moral support but not their speech, however well-intentioned it was.
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I’ve heard this from others who experienced grief. I try to make it a point to NOT say “I can imagine” (no I cannot) or anything to do with time frames and getting better. I have no idea other’s suffering.
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Too true!
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I know from both sides of this!
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So true and perfectly said!
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Thank you Infinite!
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No, it certainly does NOT work that way! Well said!
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I’ve been on both sides of this…it doesn’t work. And I wish I had had this whispered in my ear when I was the frustrated parent.
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