Just acknowledging that we are sometimes wrong is important and admitting it is the hardest thing for some people. It doesn’t break you to say you are sorry for any mistake you have done, it makes you human. For some it is not that easy!
I have gone through times where admitting ‘wrong’ was difficult. Fortunately, comes growth. I was always ready to say “I’m sorry” to my children when I was wrong. For that I am grateful.
we are the models, after all. at the beginning of the year, the teachers role play what we will teach our class to do.
in my class, when someone has been hurt, even if accidentally, and it can be physically or emotionally, the children who are involved both stop. one will ask the other, ‘are you okay?’ even if the answer is yes, they will then ask them, ‘what can I do to make it better?”, they will answer with ‘give me a hug, play with me, please don’t do that again, say you’re sorry, or whatever they feel they need.’ they then honor that and move on. instead of automatically yelling out I’m sorry, as many would do in a robotic way without even looking at the other, this teaches them to stop, to inquire about the other, to show their mutual caring, to take responsibility for what’s happened, and to resolve it in a way that the ‘victim’ needs, to learn from it, and move on. we will help them with this as many times as needed, until they begin to do this independently, and it’s amazing how quick a process this is. many families have told us that they have seen their children do this at home with sibs or friends. I wish more adults would do this.
I know they notice from the adults in their lives. I came from a household where children were expected to say “I’m sorry,” but the adults were stingy with admitting any mistakes at all. It was something I knew I’d have to model for my children, and they still. hear me say it a lot. 🙂
I can relate. This writing stemmed from a conversation I had with a person who stepped into a parenting role. I absolutely admired the perspective he put on ‘discipline’. It was more ‘guidance’ then discipline. It included how to apologize. I don’t think I ever had that lesson as a child.
Yes it does begin with how well do we do this? It is very humbling – at times difficult. Also I have grown tired of meaningless Sorry – I need the understanding behind it.
Yes. Yes. Yes. I don’t think I knew this until I was an adult Infinite. And it strikes me at how some people just know these things and how others (like me) really need a lesson in them. Could I apologize? Yes. Did I apologize? Yes. Did I do it well and with meaning? Probably not, or not as I should have been.
Humility takes courage.
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Such truth!
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“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future”.
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Brilliant quote Ivor. It really does open up the future.
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Thanks Colleen .. and yes the quote was one that captured my thoughts about sorry 😀🌏😉
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Just acknowledging that we are sometimes wrong is important and admitting it is the hardest thing for some people. It doesn’t break you to say you are sorry for any mistake you have done, it makes you human. For some it is not that easy!
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I have gone through times where admitting ‘wrong’ was difficult. Fortunately, comes growth. I was always ready to say “I’m sorry” to my children when I was wrong. For that I am grateful.
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Good lesson here today, MBC.
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Thank you MBM.
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we are the models, after all. at the beginning of the year, the teachers role play what we will teach our class to do.
in my class, when someone has been hurt, even if accidentally, and it can be physically or emotionally, the children who are involved both stop. one will ask the other, ‘are you okay?’ even if the answer is yes, they will then ask them, ‘what can I do to make it better?”, they will answer with ‘give me a hug, play with me, please don’t do that again, say you’re sorry, or whatever they feel they need.’ they then honor that and move on. instead of automatically yelling out I’m sorry, as many would do in a robotic way without even looking at the other, this teaches them to stop, to inquire about the other, to show their mutual caring, to take responsibility for what’s happened, and to resolve it in a way that the ‘victim’ needs, to learn from it, and move on. we will help them with this as many times as needed, until they begin to do this independently, and it’s amazing how quick a process this is. many families have told us that they have seen their children do this at home with sibs or friends. I wish more adults would do this.
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What a wonderful lesson Beth. I think we should make a book, “Re-Lessons For Grownups”. 🙂 This will be one of the BEST ones.
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Important questions.
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Thank you Paulette.
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I know they notice from the adults in their lives. I came from a household where children were expected to say “I’m sorry,” but the adults were stingy with admitting any mistakes at all. It was something I knew I’d have to model for my children, and they still. hear me say it a lot. 🙂
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I can relate. This writing stemmed from a conversation I had with a person who stepped into a parenting role. I absolutely admired the perspective he put on ‘discipline’. It was more ‘guidance’ then discipline. It included how to apologize. I don’t think I ever had that lesson as a child.
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Yes it does begin with how well do we do this? It is very humbling – at times difficult. Also I have grown tired of meaningless Sorry – I need the understanding behind it.
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Yes. Yes. Yes. I don’t think I knew this until I was an adult Infinite. And it strikes me at how some people just know these things and how others (like me) really need a lesson in them. Could I apologize? Yes. Did I apologize? Yes. Did I do it well and with meaning? Probably not, or not as I should have been.
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A great reminder for me – it is easy for me to judge this in others, I am not as good as I would like to be about it.
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Me either Infinite.
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I am sure it has crossed your mind but you do ask the best questions
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Aw, thanks Chris!!!!! 🙂
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Yes, how well is right. Saying sorry can be one of the hardest things, but also one of the most important.
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So right. When broken down in conversation the other day I realized how much better I myself can apologize, and make changes.
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